Leading By Example - We are Who Our Children See
I know I have been silent for the past two weeks, since February began.
I have been struggling with this political landscape and confirmation hearings as well as honoring the month of February as a celebration of African American History. The past few weeks have been very difficult for me, in the sense, that I just can't seem to understand how we, as people, have become increasingly selfish, unapologetic for our actions, blinded by our "realities" and vicious to each other (in actions and words).
Black History Month moves, to the forefront of our minds, individuals and groups who sacrificed themselves for a greater cause - social justice and civil rights. Their impact has transformed the world into what African Americans currently experience as a race of people and we, as the human race. Their voices and demands to create equitable systems in education, government and social structures catapulted advances in our society beyond what they could have imagined.
Yet with the tremendous progress made with their efforts, our world appears, STILL, much the same as it was then. Although the causes for the struggles and the fights appear to be different (sit in at lunch counters, bus boycotts, freedom bus riders and marches), they still ARE the same (women's rights, LBGTQ, protests). How could we have made so much progress but NOT ? I am baffled.
But one thing remains the same . . . the impact of our actions effect, and even traumatize, our children. Our children take on the causes, behaviors, attitudes and actions of the adult figures in their lives. Our actions must not be self centered and nor should they be to change things to make our lives better for the present. Our actions must be grounded in the thought of "How will this deed impact the future for America's children? What world am I creating for them through this act?"
I reflect on how the protestors refused to allow the new Secretary of Education, Betsy DeVos into their school in Washington, DC. That was disheartening. What message are we sending to our children.
Don't respect the decisions made or people in authority. Be disrespectful and mean if you don't like something.
Despite how you feel about her ability to do the job, we must teach our children that there are ways to express their opinions and emotions without being disrespectful to authority or to the process (as corrupt as you may want to call the process)
My point in all of this is . . . OUR CHILDREN ARE WATCHING US!!!!
Remember the clip of the children in the school chanting, "Build the Wall"???? We must not allow our frustrations and disappointments as adults cloud our sound judgement on how we should always be examples and role models of respectable individuals for our children.
ACTIONS SPEAK JUST AS LOUD AS OUR WORDS!!!
What do your actions say?